Do you know how some couples in a relationship do not listen to each other? One of the most important communication skills is focused listening. Read on to learn how to improve your marriage by paying better attention to what your spouse is really saying.Focused listening is an art that can be cultivated in your marriage. There is a verse in the Bible that says "be swift to hear, slow to speak and slow to wrath" (James 1:19). If we would make that our motto, then we would be better communicators and have more satisfaction in our marriages.Picture this scene:Jane is troubled by how they are going to pay the bills that week. She is anxious to talk to Jack about his spending. She finds him watching the final quarter of an exciting ballgame.She starts talking to him about this issue. He is nodding his head, but clearly not listening. Jane becomes angry that he is not paying attention.